"We simply expected to find no difference in psychological adjustment between adolescents reared in lesbian families and the normative sample of age-matched controls... I was surprised to find that on some measures we found higher levels of [psychological] competency and lower levels of behavioral problems. It wasn't something I anticipated."
"Yet there is an element of "common sense" in the idea that children born into planned families, to parents who both actively want kids, tend to have better experiences than kids who happen unexpectedly. The study states that the mothers' "commitment even before their offspring were born to be fully engaged in the process of parenting" may be a key factor in explaining the unique benefits of having two moms. They also found that same-sex mothers tend to be more involved in their children's lives, and more likely to communicate with their kids. Through these traits are not tied to their sexuality, lesbian parents do face unique challenges, which could actually help make them better parents. Since many kids in same-sex households face teasing at a young age, the parents are more likely to initiate discussions about sexuality, diversity, and tolerance."
Not that I want children (i'd be a terrible parent), but in all, I think the dykes I know who have kids are pretty awesome - and their kids really well adjusted.
Maybe I can pass some awesomeness onto my niece, but something tells me she's gonna turn out pretty awesome anyway.